Relocating with Kids for Getting Settled – Ultimate Tips
Get to know the weather
That may seem silly, but we just moved to the desert. Yikes, hot. As much as it annoyed me every time someone told me it was going hot, it was a fact. It’s hot in Arizona. Not the pack my bags and move kind of hot again, though. Summertime is not the time for kids to outplay, ride bikes, and chill under a shade tree in the middle of the afternoon. They can at the crack of dawn, I suppose.
Find out about activities in the area before your move. It will help get the kids active and acclimated quickly. When my sister moved to the East Coast, she had the opposite weather exchange with the worst snow season in history. Whether hot or cold, people are still active. It will be at different times of the day than you may be used to. Get to know the weather and how people manage it.
Schedule? What schedule?!
Doesn’t sound like a “tip” per se. Just like vacation, the schedule will fly out the window when you make the move. The kids’ schedule shifted as soon as we started packing and dismantling our house. We went from regular bedtime too late nights and sleep-in kind of mornings.
The first week at our new place was a schedule mess. The kids were scared of their rooms. We weren’t used to ours. We got back on a routine within the first two weeks. The kids love their places, too! It’s a summer routine, but soon early morning school will get them back on track.
Line up the activities
We moved during the summer. A good thing for not pulling the kids out of school mid-year. Not so good when we had a 1-month block of time to keep kids busy, plus the 105+ temperature on most days. Luckily we had a pool at our place so the kids enjoyed the swim time, and we made it a “pool party” most nights with them.
If I had a “do-over” relocation, I’d set-up a few summer day camps for the kids. A treat for them, a break for me and my hubs.
Keep it Fun & Positive
This one was hard for me. I’m still working on it. I know the blog is “Be Positive Mom,” yet we all have our moments. It’s not rainbows, unicorns, and a positive vibe all of the time. Let’s be real. It’s been stressful no doubt about it!
Our little ones thought the recent lightning storm was cold. A drive to watch the houses in the area build-up was neat. Going by their new school was and is exciting. A trip to the local pizza joint was fun. We’ve been invited to a few summer parties, too—a great way to meet new people and get reacquainted with old friends.
If you’re on overload, change up what is stressing everyone out. Go out for a bit. It doesn’t have to cost extra money.
Get your hair done!
Find your new salon once you relocate. If you’re in pressing need of a mani/Pedi or roots to touch up because the move gave you a few greys… GO! I like to get a cut/colour, so my locks look good which makes me feel even better. I have my new salon appointment set and am super excited to treat myself. Ain’t nothing wrong with that!
Plan the relocation, don’t let it plan you.
Nail down the date of the move and then calendar everything… I mean everything! I used my trusty Google Calendar for the drop off of the moving unit to the last farewell lunch.
My husband and I had several discussions (aka “meetings”) to lay various scenarios and price out all of the options for the move. I call them “meetings” because of being a Project Manager… I approached the logistics piece like a business project.
Not everyone will be thrilled about your move. It changes relationships. Don’t spill the news to family and friends unless you are ready to field the 50 questions that will inevitably come. You never know what someone will say and their opinions (if negative) about your decision shouldn’t weigh down your excitement.
Make it a new adventure for the kids.
Pump up the fun because it’s an adventure for everyone. Granted this depends on the age of your children. Three and six years old are easily excitable. Showing them pics and videos of schools, local activities and new things to do make it much easier than if they were teenagers I imagine.
Connect with others in the area before you get there.
Social media platforms such as LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter (also blogs) give you many avenues to start making connections before you move. I met mom bloggers in the area and will be attending the next Mom’s Night Out event in August (to meet them in person!). We also have friends in our new location. Facebook kept us connected over the years.
Even if it’s for one day, line up help that will actually help. Chasing a 3-year-old around while trying to pack up the Cool Box added so much stress to our move. If I could turn back time, I would enlist a babysitter for a day or two.
Kids need something to do. Get them working, too.
Put together a box and have them work on loading it up with clothes or toys. They will know that they will see the toys once you arrive to your new digs.
On the flip side of this tip, donate the toys you don’t want to lug in the move while the kids are not home. It may be the oldest toy in the box yet, once you put it in the donation pile, you may have a battle on your hands.
Remember your stress reducers!
Whatever you do to reduce stress (hopefully something!), keep it up during the packing and moving phase. I kept up my morning routine and even squeezed in a few runs before the final move day.
I also purchased and read to the kids:
- “The Berenstain Bears’ Moving Day” (Random House Books for Young Readers, 1981) by Stan and Jan Berenstain.
It was the perfect book because the illustrations included a funny picture of a stuffed moving van (like ours!).
Last but not least, be sure to include a “First Day & Night Box” with the essentials. You never know how long it will take to dig out of the boxes once you arrive.
I am sure I will have more to share once we get there. I can only imagine the first few days of chaos… wish us luck!
Moves are tough. Everything is new to everyone in the family, even your pets. There’s no right answer to make it completely smooth and stress-free. Give it time! Somehow we make it through… we make sweet memories and make our dreams come true.